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The last two weeks have been quite the challenge for me here in Jakarta. I've experienced loss and have actually been dazed by it. I've lost the friendship of a colleague and half the revenue in my contract. What does one do when they've been hoodwinked, set up for failure and betrayed, and it's all done with a smile, hug and pat on the back?
The answer is difficult to carry out...but once tried, it becomes easier: Find compassion, forgive, walk away, but never forget.
To find compassion, I recalled an experience I had with two friends of mine (a couple). My words came full force and broadsided not only me, but were very hurtful to my friends. I did not mean to do this but it happened. My intention was to provide support and insight, instead it was just seen as betrayal and criticism. I worked hard through apology and good acts to make right such a terrible wrong - which I don't think will ever be made right.
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Remembering this situation helped me find my compassion. Now, how to forgive? Easy, just release it. Don't own or incorporate the incidents that happened, don't accept. Just walk the path of light and love. Release. Let go and all the situations fall away.
Walk away. Don't incorporate any further actions with the perpetrator. Understand they are who they are and where they are on their path and it has nothing to do with anyone other than themselves. Don't own their monkeys (One Minute Manager advice).
Never forget: Understand these experiences are just that. Experiences. Protect one's self from it happening again and then move on. See the red flags and act with dignity. Turn the other way, head held high and know you have walked the Path of light and love and not deceit and betrayal.
And, although I don't do this often, I would like to add: As the Bible says, "Greater is He within me than the forces in the world."
All will be okay. Now, How to turn Lemons into Lemonade......yum. :)